October seems to be the month that is AWARE of a lot of important issues in our world, i.e.: breast cancer, bullying, even veganism, but the one that is close to my heart is Domestic Violence. I am proud to say that I am a survivor, it wasn’t easy but it’s not impossible either. I consider myself a very strong, independent woman, but at the same time I was afraid. Afraid of: what are people going to think, what are they going to say. I didn’t want to be that woman who calls the cops on her abuser and then the next day is bailing him out of jail. So, naturally I became the woman that doesn’t call the cops at all and is nearly choked to death while being 8 months pregnant and with my other babies nearby. Seriously, not the best experience of my life, but it truly was an eye opener, I finally realized the type of woman I was becoming, the one I didn’t want to be, the one that I would criticize for staying quiet.
What made me decide to leave? My kids. I didn’t want for my boys to grow up thinking that it was ok to hit women or my daughter to grow up believing that abuse was normal in a marriage, in a relationship. Do I regret not calling the cops? Absolutely, but there is nothing I can do about it now. The only thing there is to do now, is move forward and keep going. I am single mother of 3 kids, they are my life and I thank God for blessing me with the opportunity of watching them grow and not taking me from them.
If anyone reading this is going through abuse, you can walk away, you can get help. It’s hard, and you’ll excuse them the first time, even the second or third time, but just know that it won’t end and he/she will never change, but you can, YOU can put a stop to the abuse and change your life.